Does Beautiful Equal Crazy?

I have heard, on more than one occasion, the most attractive girls are "crazy." This opinion seems to have become more and more popular.

I could speculate as to why this is a common belief but it would only be an observation and I only wish to point out this theory, not to add commentary (maybe in another post). So, I will just post what I have found in my search.

This tweet by 50 Cent led me to investigate this theory further.
*This Tweet was Re-tweeted 208 times and was Favorited 68 times.

"Man she so fine oh my ... She probably crazy..."

Unfortunately, this isn't the first tweet about a persons attractiveness being equal to them being crazy that has been popular.

*This Tweet received 7 Re-tweets and 1 Favorite.

"The fine ones are the crazy ones."

Research has led me to find...

This interesting and informative article, The Hot/Crazy Scale – Just because she’s hot, doesn’t mean she’s worth it, which provides wonderful insight as to the way men group women by the level of their hotness verses the level of their craziness.

"For one, the hotter a girl is, the crazier she is allowed to be."

*Great Visual Aids & References available too!

There have been many references in television and movies about "girls being crazy" and "she's hot so be careful" so this belief seems to be here to stay. 

"How I Met Your Mother - Barney: Hot-Crazy Scale"

From Urban Dictionary:

Hot-Crazy Scale 125 up, 11 down
The problem is certain women’s increase in physical attractiveness has been disproportional to their increase in psychosis.

Some women are okay being labeled as "crazy."  For instance, Rihanna recently tweeted "I'am crazy and don't pretend to be anything else." 

So where does this leave beautiful women who aren't actually "crazy?" If they are confident and embrace the idea they are "crazy" they seem to do fine. 

Shakira - Loca (Crazy) "I'm crazy, but you like it..."

On the other hand, if they are just a victim of a stereotype that isn't true they are stuck having to constantly reassure people they are stable individuals. Unfortunately, this leaves little room for a person to act in a manner that doesn't fit the other persons idea of "sane."

Whether you are an attractive female who is crazy or being thought of that way, be yourself. Do not let anyone tell you how you should or should not act or be. Who you are and what makes you different is what makes you special. What one person thinks is "crazy" another may love! There is only one YOU and, crazy or not, you're BEAUTIFUL! :)

Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

How Long Distance Relationships Happen

Due to the increase of the availability of online social media and WiFi ready electronics, more people are meeting online. It is easier to connect with a person online due to the ease and access to millions of people. Furthermore, there are websites specific to any category/interest you can imagine. This can lead to chatting with people who have similar interests or hobbies. Taking all of this into account, it is not wonder people will find connections.

Another avenue into a long distance relationship could be if have already met or were together and the other person moved away. Whether you have met someone, were together already then moved or have met online, the outcome is the same. You have found yourself in a long-distance relationship.

How to Make Sure Your Long-Distance Relationship Lasts

• Firstly, I will state, everyone is different. The needs, wants and desires of someone may be different from what another person wants. Also, everyone's situation is different. That being said, here are a few tips that are helpful to keep a long distance relationship going. 

• Make a daily or weekly date time where you both will be able to see each other. You can use a video service; iPhone Facetime, skype, msn, yahoo have video chatting options (all free). There are many more options too. 

• Make sure you talk every day, on the phone or through text messaging. On the phone is the best but if you can only text, one or two days, at the most, then that's better than nothing. It is important to stay connected. 

• Try to plan trips to see each other. Setting an actual date and having that to look forward to will help ease the anxiety of not seeing each other. 

• Send them something "meaningful" in the mail. This can be anything that is significant to you and that person. Examples are: a postcard from your favorite restaurant, a card with your perfume/cologne, a CD, key chain from a special place. Use your imagination;) 

• If you're a girl = Send him pictures of you at random times. They do not have to be promiscuous. Guys are attracted by what they see, so keep your image in his head.

• If you're a guy = Send her a sweet message. Anything from "Thinking of you," Wish you were here," Dream about me," "Good morning beautiful" etc. Women just need to know you're on their mind and they'll feel good. 

How Long Can A Long Distance Relationship Last?

I think many of you know that only you can answer that question but there are a few tips that can help.

Maybe:

If you feel the other person is drifting away - make a trip to see them as soon as possible; talk to them about your feelings, see their point-of-view. It is better to know.

The timing just isn't right - their busy with work or you're busy with school; the problems can cause a separation. Try taking a "break" to see how you feel. Sometimes, knowing you're without that person is enough to bring you closer or farther apart. Either way, it can bring clarification.

No:

Sometimes, being away from someone for too long can make them forget about how you were when you were together. They can find themselves getting attention from people who are closer to them, who share their interests, hobbies or work. This can, sadly, lead to an end to any long distance relationship the person had.

The economy is bad and it is expensive to move. Sometimes, the only thing that prevents a great long-lasting relationship is the lack of finances it takes to see the other person.

It is unfortunate society has turned into a culture of “singles.” Meaning, it is rare to find loving, long-lasting relationships, much-less, long, long-distance relationships. Most of the time, it is difficult to trust the other person. They have either shown signs of being unfaithful or have already and the relationship is beyond difficult after that.

Yes:

Once in a while, true love happens and the people who were apart come together and achieve an ever-lasting love. This happens when two people are invested in each other, have/had a common goal for what they want in the relationship and for the future, together. One person moves to be with the other or the person returns from school/work and things are better than ever.

I, personally, have witnessed all of these examples in my life. Love is difficult. Relationships are difficult. So when you find someone who knows and accepts those difficulties, you have found a good one:)

Unable to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

• Addicted to a person

• Adult Children of Alcoholics

• Having a Parent With A Mental Disorder/Bipolar, depression, anxiety

• Resulting in an Inability to experience a happy-healthy intimacy in a relationship

        

      You know you're going to get hurt; the person's going to hurt you because they're not emotionally invested in you and yet you harass them endlessly yearning for an intimacy with them but at the same time if you were to get that intimacy you would be extremely anxious, uncomfortable, feel smothered and try to push them away with mood swings, always being angry/sad, picking arguments over everything, blaming them for your unhappiness. 

          Then, when they leave, you are desperate to get them back. You feel like they were the reason you were ever "happy" and without them you have nothing. You rationalize all of the arguments, lies, sadness and lack of intimacy in a way that seems as though they weren't that bad. The relationship was good and you'll never be happy again. The anger & anxiety kick in and you do everything possible to try to get them back but they've had enough. Emotional roller coasters are difficult to handle for anyone but you see it as they just never really loved/cared about you at all or they wouldn't have left. 

              In reality, you needed to make yourself happy and by doing that would have changed the whole dynamic of the relationship. So, before the depression sets in from accepting the relationship has ended, look at it as a new beginning.

 

        This is a chance to do what makes YOU feel good. When you're addicted to someone everything you do is for and about them so you stop doing the things you used to and sometimes even forget what it is that you like. Luckily, you're still alive and that means you can figure these things out. Be the person who you would be attracted to and want to be with.

                 I know, I want someone who is ambitious. I'm very attracted to someone who is passionate about what they do. When you find something you are confident doing that radiates and attracts people and that is the key to being in a happy-healthy relationship. To be together as one but to be 2 individuals first.

Facebook and Relationships

Would you be mad if your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other, adds/talks to/likes, their ex on Facebook..?

One Girls Opinion:

Yes, I would be angry! I believe people will test you to see how far you will let them get. It is not "playing games" or being "childish." It's simply human nature. Like a child looking to its' mother/father before they do something. They want to see if they're going to get a reaction from them if they do the act.

I am not saying the person is adding their ex to do any of these things. I am merely saying, there in not a reason why a person needs to be friends with their ex. On Facebook or anywhere else. I know there are different beliefs for each relationship and person but the way I see it is a person knows (or should know) how adding their ex is going to effect you. So if they add them they're disregarding your feelings over something that should not be a big deal. They should not find it necessary to add their ex when they are in a relationship.

Try asking them if they think it's okay for you to add your ex and see how they respond. If they think it's okay then do it. Act like you do not care then because it's obvious they do not care much about the relationship.

I am saying all of this because I have had a negative experience with an ex having his ex on his Facebook and it turns out he was cheating on me with her. Therefore, I may be a but biased in this answer. But I do suggest you at least express how you feel about the situation in a clam manner at first. Maybe approaching the situation as "This just makes me feel uncomfortable and can you consider my feelings in not adding him" would be a good start. If she decides not to listen or disregards your suggestion then I would be angry, yes.

Sorry, if I went a little too in depth with my answer. I just wanted to provide you with the best answer possible.

Long Distance Dating and Love

There are a lot of people who get into relationships that are long distance (myself included). The question I have answered is Should you relocate for love?

Facebook and Dating

A common problem is how Facebook effects relationships and dating. Here is a good question that I answered in detail about how to address a bf/gf when they add their ex on Facebook.

What to do if your boyfriend/girlfriend adds their ex on Facebook

Now Reading "Why Men Marry B*tches"

Just bought this from amazon and it is very empowering. Even if you aren't having relationship issues I would suggest reading it just for a little confidence boost:)

Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart